Posted in Self-Nurture

Think Progress

Aside from the obvious advantages of a 12-step program if one needs it, I’m forever grateful for the phrases used in the program as they become part of our everyday lexicon.  It’s amazing how quickly certain sayings catch on, not surprising is that they catch on because they hit the nail on the head or fill a gap making the day easier to cope with. 

What’s the saying I’m referring to?  “Progress not perfection!”  It’s a simple thought and yet brings in so much hope that anything is possible.  It’s about keeping your consciousness looking in a forward direction.  It’s about taking responsibility for your choices so that you’re more inclined to think about your choices instead of simply reacting. 

As you face your life altering health issues remember that as pilgrims you are called to walk a journey that many in your circles will never face…at least that’s what we all hope for, but allowing them in your life will give you the support you need to make progress.  The pilgrim’s heart is all about progress, the incremental movement in our heart and soul, ultimately culminating in progress of our physical being (I didn’t say cure). 

My hope for you is that you allow your inner pilgrim to be a compass for your journey.  You may be walking parallel paths to someone else with a life altering condition but your journey is personal, after-all it’s yours!  Reap the benefits of walking with others and use that information, support, education and hope to fuel your own progress.

Posted in Partnerships, Personal Conviction

No Dear, Your Behind Doesn’t Have to Hang Out of the Gown

When receiving a medical diagnosis one of the action steps often entails staying in the hospital.  We all know that hospital gowns are not the most fashion forward garments made and they don’t scream modesty.  Doesn’t the medical community believe that dignity helps in healing?  Don’t patients deserve to not be dressed to look the part of the sick one?

 Donna Karan, one of America’s leading fashion designers is taking on the challenge.  Her husband had been diagnosed with lung cancer and of course he spent lots of time in the hospital.  It has been some time since his death and she had taken on the role of fashion advocate for patients at Memorial Hospital in New York.  She began her journey at this hospital because it is where her husband was treated.

She is working with the administration to create a hospital gowns that don’t make the person sicker when they wear it!  Her idea is to be part of a movement that gives patients tools to help them heal themselves.  She has adopted the pilgrim’s heart.  Donna Karan is on her own pilgrimage born out of personal experience and developing a personal mastery and understanding about what it takes to heal.  As with any pilgrimage there is initial excitement and that often meets with challenges but having personal conviction is the best tool to overcome the challenge.

We’re proud to have Donna Karan walking this world as a pilgrim.  Her world view will help many and will be a living testament for her valiant way her husband fought his disease.

Posted in Having a Voice

More Isn’t Always Better

I recently attended the Sacred Activism conference in Tulsa, Oklahoma, sponsored by Wisdom University.  It was a great experience and there were lots of organizations exhibiting about how they are making a difference in the world.  One of the booths was for a magazine “Authentic Living”.

I decided to put my name in the hat for the drawing.  The prize would be a book which I love.  Can never have too many books!  Fortunately I was one of the winners.  The book I won is one I already had and instead of asking to exchange it I was gracious for the offering but now I have two of the books.

 I can’t explain why I would say something.  I can’t explain why I felt that the gift in and of itself prevented me from speaking up especially since I was the first of four to claim my prize.  It really is a mystery to me and one that concerns me because if I give up my voice here…where else do I give up my voice.

As pilgrims we need to be able to have accept gifts and be gracious but not if it leads to self-sacrifice.  I’m grateful for the gift, just wish I would have asked for one of the books I didn’t have; but now I know and next time I’ll do better!

Posted in Partnerships

How Much Attention Can You Stand!

Imagine being the focus of everyone’s attention.  It might not be overwhelming if there are two or three people in the room, but what if there are thousands like at a sporting event?  How much focused attention would you be able to soak in and not be ashamed, embarrassed, overwhelmed and simply felt joy?

John Beltzer gives that opportunity to children with serious illness.  He has created an organization that creates individualized, personalized one-of-a-kind songs for kids with serious illness.  The organization Songs of Love,, was featured on television and immediately made my mind begin racing about the possibilities for life enhancement beyond the traditional therapies.  Having a song that focuses on you, your gifts and talents and the love you bring to others would be the best shot in the arm anyone could ever receive.

As pilgrims it’s important to find others who support us in our mission.  At the same time it is important that we support those who bring a smile, laughter or temporary relief from strife into our lives.  It’s not often that Sherpas make themselves known in everyday life so when they do take advantage of the gifts they have to offer.

Posted in Anonymity, Self-Nurture

Moving to the front of the room!

Anyone who knows me knows that when I attend functions I have a tendency to sit in the back of the room.  It’s been my way of being anonymous and yet I have been known to be a bit noisy in the back of the room, trying not to be anonymous.  It’s a seesaw kind of relationship and I know that many face the same challenges when they are deciding how they want to show up in the world.

 This past weekend I attended the Sacred Activism Conference in Tulsa, OK.  The first day I sat in the middle of the audience, but always on the end so I can make a quick escape if necessary.  On day two and then day three I moved up to the front of the auditorium.  I sat in the second row (first row was reserved for members of the panel).  When they got up to do their thing I was now in the front row of the audience.  It felt great because I was more engaged.

What I began to realize is that when I am not sitting front and center it means that I am not connected to the event, talk, meeting, etc.  Being able to be present made it easier to approach the presenters following the sessions.  It made me feel more a part of the community that inclusion was what this conference was about.  I knew that my self-inclusion had to go hand-in-hand with the group’s inclusion of me.

As I look at those facing the challenges of illness use your personal level of self-inclusivity as a barometer for the importance you give to an event.  Notice what gets your attention!  Notice what you want to be a part of !  Notice how being more present lessens your feelings of isolation and anonymity.

I’m certain going to be more aware of how I show up…won’t you show up with me?

Posted in In the Know, Partnerships

Why partnerships are so important…

Good Morning America (GMA) told a story about a gentleman in England who was diagnosed with end stage pancreatic cancer.  Upon hearing the news he decided to truly live like he was dying.  He went out and sold his clothes, sold his car and gave everything else away.  He went out for expensive dinners and was trying to do what the financial advisors Motley Fools recommend…Die Broke.

Fortunately for him after a year the doctors realized that he didn’t have end stage pancreatic cancer, but pancreatitis a condition which can be treated.  Unfortunately he’s broke, has no possessions and is considering suing the medical provider for the cost of the year of spending.  It’s this reason that as pilgrims we need to learn to ask questions.  It’s crucial that we feel we have an equal partnership with our medical providers.  The first question I wonder is did he have a second opinion.

I can’t imagine the anguish he suffered thinking his life was to be counted in days.  I can’t imagine the relief when he found out he wasn’t going to die.  I can’t imagine how he reconciles this in his head…but I can imagine what possibilities lie before him as he has a renewed chance at life.

Posted in Anonymity

Attention brings engagement…and hopefully answers

I’ve worked in the field of medical psychosocial care for twenty years.  I have supported thousands of people through their journey when facing an illness and yet there are some illnesses that don’t receive the attention of others.  We are aware of the host of celebrities with breast cancer, we hear about Montel Williams life with MS, Michael J. Fox has been a face attached to Parkinson’s disease and these are just a few of the consciousness raising moments the general public is privy to.

In the past week I’ve been told about two recent deaths from Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS), what many know as Lou Gehrig’s disease.  I went to the ALS website and found out that May is ALS awareness month.  There are many events around the country and legislative forums related to funding throughout the month. 

The disease was first described by a French neurologist, Jean-Martin Charcot back in 1869.  Although there are continual advancements there isn’t a lot of awareness and you have to wonder how that translated into research dollars and other types of support.  It wasn’t until I went through the website that I found the “famous” people who have bravely faced this disease.

How does the increase in consciousness help us when you’re looking for resources to overcome the challenges of an illness.  What is it that keeps certain illness quieter than others and is it time to turn up the volume when access to funding for things like stem cell research or gene therapy could unlock the mysteries?  This is why escaping anonymity is so vital not only to our life as pilgrims, but in the access gained in the larger arena.  How will you make your voice heard?