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Pay Attention to the People You Meet

Yesterday I had the opportunity to attend a speaking event co-sponsored by the Lupus Association and the Arthritis Foundation.  The first speaker is a psychologist who spoke about attitude and illness and how they dance together.  The real inspiration came at the end of the program when a woman was introduced to speak about the importance of exercise when facing a health challenge.

Delaina was in pain throughout her twenties and thirties.  At one point she was urged by a provider to have a test to see if she had rheumatoid arthritis.  She had the first test done and indeed that was the diagnosis.  She went on for further testing and the rheumatoid arthritis was confirmed and so was a diagnosis of fibromyalgia.

The following day, after receiving the diagnosis, Delaina went to the nail salon and they were running behind.  While waiting she noticed an older woman walking in with difficulty.  Since the salon was running late the two women had a chance to talk.  Delaina asked the woman if she had arthritis.  The woman confirmed the observation and then Delaina shared her 24 hour diagnosis.  The woman turned away and began to tear up.  She turned to Delaina and said with regret, “I’m sorry”.

They continued the conversation and at the end of the conversation the woman offered Delaina two pieces of advice as a gift.  She encouraged Delaina to read the book, A Course in Miracles and to learn to love herself.  This “chance” meeting impacted Delaina immensely.  Delaina has many accomplishments including becoming a competitive body builder (that’s a whole other story).

At the end of her talk I went to speak to Delaina because her story was very inspiring.  I encouraged her to write a book to share her experiences and spread the message of hope.  I commented on the “chance” run in with the woman in the salon and Delaina said to me, “I’ve been having a lot of those ‘chance’ meetings”.  That’s the A-Ha moment.  Is it really chance?  Was she supposed to be in the salon to meet this woman?  Was it a good thing that the salon was running late so Delaina would have a chance to converse with this woman?  Is synchronicity a chance event?

Think about the people you meet every day.  Why are you meeting these individuals?  What message are you supposed to take away from the “chance” meeting.  How many messages or opportunities have you missed because you haven’t given yourself the gift of consciousness?

What “chance” meetings have you had and how have they impacted your life?  How will you work on your level of consciousness?