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Brainstorming or Blame-storming?

One of the key components to hope is the ability to look for options every step of the way.  The alternatives you’re looking for may be related to treatment, emotional attachments, attitude, or spiritual acceptance.  Every creative person at one point in their life has been involved in brainstorming as a way to get the creative juices flowing.  It’s that energy that gives you the energy you need to continue coming up with options when facing a health challenge.

The key to brainstorming is to unlock the inhibitions we all have regarding our own ideas.  The key to a good brainstorming session is to allow everyone involved the freedom to express themselves without restriction, criticism, or self-doubt.  The glory of brainstorming comes after the session when you realize the unlimited capacity for answers to your questions that arises from the collaborative efforts with friends, family, and even providers.

The trouble for some is that instead of brainstorming they view their diagnosis from the victim’s role and begin a blame-storming session.  It’s about finding the fault in all aspects of the illness journey.  As this person spends their time spinning their wheels blaming the world, opportunities for health and healing are passing them by with no chance of benefiting from what they have to offer.  The blame-storming session gives the patient the license to be obstinate, combative, and often very angry.  Do you really believe that anger is the magic elixir for health and healing?

The problem is that blame-storming is an easy place to reside.  It means you don’t have to take responsibility for any aspect of your health.  Blame-storming gives you the ultimate card in the martyr deck.  If you’re good at blame-storming, it’s easy to get others to buy into your blame sessions, providing an opening for those “poor me” sessions to evolve.  Blame-storming holds you back at a point in your life when forward should be the only direction you desire and accept. 

Don’t become one of “those” patients the ones where the medical staff sees you name on the appointment schedule and is bummed out by the appearance of your name.  Don’t become one of “those” patients who runs around doubting every aspect of your care.  Don’t become one of “those” patients by settling for anything but enormous opportunities for health progression, not health regression.  Brainstorming is a freeing experience and provides you with unlimited opportunities for exploration of your inner and outer worlds.