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What Could Be Braver Than Crying?

Ever watch babies cry; they do it with such abandon for what others think or care about them as they engage in this behavior.  Why do you think that’s so?  Probably because they have no other means of communicating what they’re thinking or what they need.  It’s their form of language at least for the first few months and it is very effective.  If nothing else it gets everyone’s attention.

When does that change?  Why is it that crying becomes a bad, almost taboo activity?  Does having spoken language really change the primal nature of crying?  Isn’t crying still an effective means of communication?  If nothing else doesn’t it serve as a form of ultimate self-expression?

Keeping that in mind then it shows us that crying is brave because it goes against the norm.  As adults we’re supposed to be tougher than a baby.  We’re allegedly able to communicate more directly through our vocabulary.  Truth be told, I can’t think of anything more honest, open, and brave than crying.  The purity of the emotion makes it a freeing experience for body, mind, and spirit.

I can’t think of a person who diagnosed with a chronic or life-threatening illness who hasn’t wanted to cry after the news.  Maybe you are one of those people who believe that when life gives you lemons you should make lemonade, but when shock and dismay hit doesn’t crying seem like a likely candidate for self-expression?

When we’re vulnerable we’re open to receiving love and support from others.  It gives others the opening to approach us and lend their words and actions of comfort.  Even when you cry in private, there is an openness about you that emerges and others can feel.  There’s a receptivity to seeking alternatives to promote health and healing.  You’re more inclined to create a wellness team to support you through the good and the bad times.  It’s truly a win-win situation; that would make Stephen Covey proud!

If you feel it necessary, have a good cry.  If you’re already a weeper then good for you, you have one more tool in your arsenal to promote wellness.  If you’re not in that place you may need something to prime the pump, but eventually it will come naturally just like water from the well.