Do you remember taking algebra and having the constant in the equation? Constants are important because they create stability. When we have constants in our lives we have a sense of safety and security. They say, “The devil you know is better than the devil you don’t know.” I started thinking about what’s constant in my life because I work all over the country and it feels like things are constantly changing. Knowing someone at home loves me even if I’m not there is critical to continuing my work away from home. Experiencing support in the form of life updates keeps me in the loop even when I step out of the circle physically (but never emotionally or spiritually).
I was listening to an interview with Buddhist nun, Pema Chodron where she shared, “The sun is always there-sometime clouds are disguising it, but it never leaves.” That’s the simplest way to describe object constancy, knowing something still exists even if we can’t see it. How is that possible? We experience the world through multiple senses and on top of that we have our innate sense of intuition. When we pair all these sensory and experiential aspects we build a spiritual nest where in our hearts we know we’re protected.
I’m not sure why, but many equate constant with boredom. You here things like same s**t different day. If we’re coming up against the same challenges repeatedly and you think that’s a constant there’s a problem. Incurring the same obstacles over and over is insanity. It’s in that moment that changing your strategy is critical to moving forward. The constant experiences in your life should be the things that support you, encourage you, provide you with a sense of security and allow you to take some risks to hopefully improve your pilgrimage to health and healing.
Remember, the sun really is there even if you can’t see it and so your humanity! The world needs you!
Valentine ’s Day is right around the corner and stores are displaying merchandise and cards for the occasion. I started thinking about the messages sent by some of the big companies like Ma Bell and Hallmark and what’s been lost with the invention of Facebook and other social media. Ma Bell wanted us to “Reach Out and Touch Someone”, and Hallmark told us buying cards, “When You Want to Send the Best”. These two company taglines spoke more, to me, than just about commercialism, but how we interact in the world.
I’ve watched the number of birthday cards dwindle significantly over the past four years. I used to have a mantle full of cards, and now it’s down to a select few. Don’t get me wrong, I get plenty of Happy Birthday messages on Facebook, but it’s different. We no longer have to plan on how we interact. We are now able to wake-up in the morning and see who we need to send a birthday wish, congratulate for an achievement, or commiserate about a dilemma. What happened to sentiment? Have we lost the ability to connect more than electronically?
I sent out a bunch of cards today because there are people who I haven’t spoken to in a while that I wanted to send a special message. I want to appreciate certain people who have supported me, kept me in the loop of their lives while I’ve been traveling the country. It gave me an opportunity to say I took the time to spend a few minutes devoted to connecting with you. I know I may be a bit over the edge, but social media has left too many people connected to others with only a dotted line, and they’re still lonely.
When going through difficult times we need to make those phone calls, send those calls, and show that we’re making an effort and that this person matters to you more than just a count on your Facebook page. Illness, divorce, death, financial struggle to name a few are life events that require deeper connections to emerge with a sense of peace and to have the ability to continue on life’s pilgrimage!