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Timing is Everything

You hear people talking about being in the right place at the right time when something wonderful happens.  I don’t think too many of you thought your were in the wrong place at the wrong time when you got your diagnosis because that’s not how timing works.  So what is it about timing when contemplating your health and healing?

I arrived at school this afternoon for my last class.  After this class it’s time to write my dissertation.  The coursework has taken three years (for me) and I’m hoping to expedite the dissertation writing process.  One of the students in my class began this journey about 9 years ago and when asked about the gap since her last class she responded, “The timing wasn’t right”.

Timing is a funny thing because it provide you with opportunities.  Oprah often comments on people’s discussion of luck.  She states, “Luck is where preparation meets opportunity”.  Let’s go with that discussion, not about luck, but about the times on your health and healing journey when preparation meets opportunity.

What opportunities are we discussing?  How about finding about new clinical trials or treatment regimens?  How about hearing about a complementary therapy that has provided stress reduction, jump starting the immune system and integrating body, mind, and spirit?

So what type of preparation does it take?  It requires you to be open-minded.  It requires you to prepare your emotional state to one of acceptance.  You don’t have to accept the illness, necessarily, but you do have to accept the challenge you’re facing and the commitment to wellness.

Part of your preparation may require that you prime the pump for emotional and physical endurance.  It requires that you be open-minded to the “caring truth” and take the feedback people offer you as gifts instead of feeling like everyone is telling you what to do.  Remember, you have the final say in everything and anything you do, exert your personal influence over your life.

You can’t outrun the illness, but you can take steps to prepare you for the journey ahead and hopefully open up lots of opportunities for health and healing.

Posted in after the diagnosis, coping with chronic illness, coping with life threatening illness, living with chronic illness, Living with Illness

Sitting in the Mud

As spring makes its way across the country the rains starts and mud becomes a familiar condition to face.  Ever try and drive through mud thinking you can make it through only to have the wheels begin spinning?  The harder you hit the gas the deeper you sink in the mud.  There are two things you can do; you can either sit there and wait for the mud around you to dry out (that could take days or weeks) or figure out how to develop traction under the wheel so you can get some grip and get out.

The diagnosis is the mud.  It’s easy to get mired in the mud physically, emotionally and spiritually after you hear the words from the doctor that will forever change your life.  I’ve witness way too many people who sit on the pity pot and wallow away in the mud.  Mud is slippery, dirty, and very heavy.  If you don’t have the tools to get out of the mud you can expend lots of energy but not get anywhere.  You become like a hamster on a wheel; going fast but getting nowhere.  What will it take for you to get some traction in facing the health challenge?

Good information will allow you to make good decisions, that gives you traction.  Having a support network not only to provide comfort but to serve as a sounding board for strategy building gives you traction.  Developing good relationships with your providers means you have better access at times when you need it the most, that gives you traction.  It’s not rocket science, but you have to make the choice to get out of the mud; no one is going to do it for you.  I guess you could call a tow truck to drag you out…who’s that person in your life.  The tow truck is the person who has continually saved you from yourself in a variety of situations.  Is that the message you want to send to your body that you need to be saved because you don’t have the desire or stamina?  I think you can do better!

The mud is a hindrance but you can learn how to gain traction if you get stuck.  The real goal is to learn to avoid the mud staying on dry land so you always have the traction you need to continue on our journey to health and healing!