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If Zig Ziglar Said It: It Must Be True

Motivational speakers provide us with encouragement, challenge us, and give us tools to make life a little better.  Zig Ziglar has been in on the world stage for years.  After learning about his death I found a quote that made me sit up and pay attention.  Ziglar said, “Failure is not a dead end; it’s just a detour.”

It’s one thing when applying this philosophy to business and relationships, but does it apply to health and healing?  Could we take this thought and see how it reflects the consciousness of illness?

I believe that Ziglar’s quote is a universal.  How does it apply to being diagnosed with a chronic or life-threatening illness?  Anyone diagnosed with a health challenge knows that treatment isn’t always smooth sailing.  There may be times when something doesn’t work, or the body reverts to earlier stages of agitation creating a flare.  These are the times when we have to create a world of possibility and hope so we can move forward.

The world of possibility and hope may require a change in medication.  It could lead you to looking at complementary therapies.  You may be inspired to go deep within and cultivate the emotional and spiritual realms of your life.  Whatever choice you make just means that the destination may take a little longer.

I’m well aware that not everyone is cured.  However, creating a world that is engaging, envelopes you with love, and has meaning is at the center of a good life.  If every challenge were a dead end, following a diagnosis we’d simply wait for death.  Working with individuals with life-threatening illnesses for over twenty years I know that’s not the norm.  We’re used to detours in life.  It requires us to establish where we are, and create a new route.  It’s like when your GPS resets after you take a wrong turn.  You get to your destination; it just takes a little longer.

You need to understand that this detour doesn’t come without frustration.  It may leave you questioning life every day.  Your faith may be tested.  It’s your route to plan and execute

What does your detour look like?  How will you reset your internal GPS?  Send me your thoughts…either comment below or email me at


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Are You Reactionary?

The laws of physics say that every action has an equal and opposite reaction.  This is in line with the idea that the universe is constantly trying to keep the balance.  We see this in our bodies when there are subtle adjustments made when things get out of whack.  The question is are your reacting or responding.

I was recently in a class with Dr. Christian de Quincey, author of Radical Knowing, and he introduced us to Bohmian Dialogue (there’s not enough time to go into the particular, but it involves sitting in silence awaiting for thoughts, ideas, etc to bubble to the surface).  Anyway, one of the key things I learned was the importance of responding instead of reacting.  As Zig Ziglar says, “Reacting is what you do when  you take the wrong kind of medicine”. 

Reacting is that gut, knee jerk reaction that we believe is a response.  Actually it’s almost an instinctual opportunity to pounce on what was just said or done.  Reactions are those things we need to keep to ourselves because they don’t further our own journey to wellness.  These reactions simply alleviate the build up of tension and we all know what happens when we make hasty decisions without much thought of the consequences. 

On the other hand, responses are those times when words or actions strike a chord with our inner mission.  They are those instances when we’ve digested the input and assembled a gem that we share with the world.  It’s kind of like the pearl in the oyster; we get some input that we turn over and over in our heart and minds and come up with a jewel of a response.

Reactions are impulsive and often not in our best interest.  Responses require mindfulness.  They encourage us to consider our options and develop a world view that promotes health and healing.

So are your reactive or responsive?  How will you develop your responsive nature and try while working to squelch the reactive nature?  I’d love to hear how your working toward this goal towards wellness.