Posted in Anonymity, Self-Nurture

Moving to the front of the room!

Anyone who knows me knows that when I attend functions I have a tendency to sit in the back of the room.  It’s been my way of being anonymous and yet I have been known to be a bit noisy in the back of the room, trying not to be anonymous.  It’s a seesaw kind of relationship and I know that many face the same challenges when they are deciding how they want to show up in the world.

 This past weekend I attended the Sacred Activism Conference in Tulsa, OK.  The first day I sat in the middle of the audience, but always on the end so I can make a quick escape if necessary.  On day two and then day three I moved up to the front of the auditorium.  I sat in the second row (first row was reserved for members of the panel).  When they got up to do their thing I was now in the front row of the audience.  It felt great because I was more engaged.

What I began to realize is that when I am not sitting front and center it means that I am not connected to the event, talk, meeting, etc.  Being able to be present made it easier to approach the presenters following the sessions.  It made me feel more a part of the community that inclusion was what this conference was about.  I knew that my self-inclusion had to go hand-in-hand with the group’s inclusion of me.

As I look at those facing the challenges of illness use your personal level of self-inclusivity as a barometer for the importance you give to an event.  Notice what gets your attention!  Notice what you want to be a part of !  Notice how being more present lessens your feelings of isolation and anonymity.

I’m certain going to be more aware of how I show up…won’t you show up with me?


I've lived my life in service to others. I'm focused on mental health and how it impacts our relationships, culture, and society. Through creative expression and narrative I believe we can impact change.

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