Posted in Having a Voice, Relationships

Holding What’s Important

I talk to a lot of people and the one thing that everyone has in common is that they all know someone that has a health issue.  Obviously there is a continuum, but we are able to adjust our sympathy and empathy so that it matches both the person in our life’s energy and the situation at hand.

It just so happens that I was watching “Sex and the City”, the TBS cleaned up version, and it was the episode where Samantha is facing her breast cancer but her friend Carrie is in denial about what could be the death of her friend.  Toward the end of the episode once Carrie has denial-ed herself to the max she has lunch with Samantha and finally Samantha grabs Carrie’s hand and asks “Please let me talk about what I’m afraid of”. It was a straight forward request and one that brought everyone to a halt and made me think about the big question fo many…”Who can handle your pain?”

When facing a life-altering health diagnosis finding people who aren’t fearful of you or the illness is crucial to you having a voice.  Your voice is your reality and hopefully others want to be a part of that reality.  It’s the only reality we have.

There are people out there who you may not know yet who can hold the pain.  Some may be professionals like those in health-care who lend support, education and hope.  Others are volunteers who are able to make that heart connection and aren’t fearful of emotion.  Find those that will share your reality to move you closer to your personal goals and definition of living with quality in your life.


I've lived my life in service to others. I'm focused on mental health and how it impacts our relationships, culture, and society. Through creative expression and narrative I believe we can impact change.

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