Posted in after the diagnosis, Community, coping with chronic illness, coping with life threatening illness, living with chronic illness, Living with Illness

How do I fit in?

There are lots of ways of creating community.  We see groups of people connect all the time and now with the Internet getting the word out there can be quick and painless.  If you see sites like Meet Up,, you not only can find people with similar interests, political views, life challenges, but you can find them in using your zip code as the search parameter.

Now it’s clear that just because a group exists doesn’t make you a part of it.  The important part about becoming part of a community is that you have to show up.  You have to show up in the physical sense, but you have to also show up emotionally and be ready to become a part of something larger than yourself.  I know that at the beginning the desire to hang back is tempting, but you’ll get more bang for your buck if you jump in the fire.

Feeling a part of something will reduce your feelings of isolation and what the 12 step programs call “terminal uniqueness”.  That’s where you believe there is not one other person in the world who can understand your life or its challenges.  When you become a part of a larger entity you find that being one of the school of fish makes swimming upstream easier and more fun.

Stop walking around the edge of the pool…jump in and see who else is waiting to welcome you!


I've lived my life in service to others. I'm focused on mental health and how it impacts our relationships, culture, and society. Through creative expression and narrative I believe we can impact change.

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