Posted in Relationships, Self-Nurture

What Do You Really Have Control Over?

Having a feeling of control over your life is often a key factor in making it through a life-altering illness.  What you need to remember is that the only control you really have is over your beliefs, your decisions and your actions…that’s it.  This came to light this past weekend when I received a call that the son of a friend of mine was murdered while working outside the United States.  He was a young man with many years of life ahead of him and he was robbed of that opportunity.

The notion of control is a true tug-o-war.  When kids are young parents have control over their actions.  As they grow and become adolescents their job in this world on a developmental level is to separate from the family.  As they become young adults we sit back and pray that they make the right decisions but you’re usually helpless in rectifying the wrong decisions.  Over time the hope is that each person develops a good decision making process leading to nurturing and loving actions.  That’s the extent of the hope we have, is to be able to pray for the well-being of ourselves and others.

Keep your eye on the prize and that’s you’re own well-being.  Make sure that you are making decisions that are in your best interest regarding sleep, nutrition, stress, diet, emotional state and spiritual state.  These are the areas you have direct influence over and not taking advantage of these results in neglect of the soul.


I've lived my life in service to others. I'm focused on mental health and how it impacts our relationships, culture, and society. Through creative expression and narrative I believe we can impact change.

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