Posted in coping with chronic illness, coping with life threatening illness


Expectations can lead us into dangerous territory.  It creates a reality that some of us never get to realize.  Unfortunately, every health challenge is unexpected.  Even those that have some genetic predisposition are surprised by the diagnosis.

The diagnosis shatters the myth of health.  Most of us feel we’re entitled to or thought we were guaranteed good health as part of our contract of living on this earth.  Is it possible to not have any expectations?  I think it’s possible to expect the highest quality of life we’re capable of achieving at any given time.

Maybe we have to begin declaring our expectations closer to the bone.  No as a lifetime expectation, but with the tools and resources you have, how do you create the best possible day?  It’s like when you go to cooking websites that help you make the most from the ingredients you have on hand.  The difference is that you are the one who has to come up with the recipe for your life.

Don’t live according to expectations because it’s like building a house of cards…undoubtedly it falls.


I've lived my life in service to others. I'm focused on mental health and how it impacts our relationships, culture, and society. Through creative expression and narrative I believe we can impact change.

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