Posted in after the diagnosis, coping with chronic illness, coping with life threatening illness, living with chronic illness, Living with Illness

When Everything Falls Into Place

You’re past the point where the doctor has said those words “I’m sorry to tell you…” and you’ve either begun treatment or have moved beyond treatment.  Along the way once you got over the shock there’s often a moment, a crystallizing moment when everything falls into place.  The clouds that obstructed your vision have cleared and the reality of the illness has taken center stage.

When the fog clears the moment that can be most beneficial is when life crystallizes hard and sharp.  There is little if any ambiguity about what lies ahead and how you’re going to handle it.  This is the point of empowerment.  You have reached the understanding of what it will take to stay healthy.  You have come to a deep understanding of your inner resources and you’ve put them to use to overcome the health challenge.  You have enlisted the help of others who will be your surrogates when your energy is low so the momentum doesn’t falter.

My hope for you is that you have a crystallizing moment.  There can be no greater adjunct treatment then disposing of the pity and the “I can’t” attitude and moving toward the place of hope and achievement.  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, not every disease is curable.  Healing is very different than cure.  Holding on to your self-sufficiency is critical.  Understanding that decline is not losing, it becomes a new normal…unfortunate, but sometimes reality.

Know that as you move along your journey to wellness there will be always be challenges, but the line is drawn in the sand…you’re empowered to experience your health any way you choose, I hope you choose healing.


I've lived my life in service to others. I'm focused on mental health and how it impacts our relationships, culture, and society. Through creative expression and narrative I believe we can impact change.

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