Posted in after the diagnosis, coping with chronic illness, coping with life threatening illness, living with chronic illness, Living with Illness

Do We Reminisce About Health?

It’s the holiday season and many are getting together with family and friends.  We sit around the table or the fireplace and talk about old times.  When faced with a health challenge do we sit around reminiscing about our health? I don’t exactly hear someone sitting around the table saying, “I remember when I could run up and down the stairs ten times a day without getting winded”.  If you were ninety you might be having that conversation, but not reference to illness.

If that were the only question regarding our health and our past we’d be in good shape, but I think we take it one step further.  The other question is “Does absence make the heart grow fonder?”  This question is certainly in line with the Thanksgiving practice of sharing what you’re thankful for, but what’s the impact.  Do you wallow away the hours pining for the health you used to have?  Is there an grieving that comes to the foreground when you reminisce about when your health was good or is it a thing of the past?

Can honoring the health you had in the past be the catalyst for getting well now?  You already know what your body is capable of, so what can you do to give it a helping hand?  What’s your responsibility in the wellness equation?  I’m not simply talking about diet or rest, I’m talking about the deeper self.  The part of you that holds on to resentments and “shoulds” as a way of life.

Years ago I went to hear Cheryl Richardson speak.  She is a very well known life coach and has written several books on the subject.  The one thing that stands out from the workshop (this was 6 years ago) was that no matter your plans, you should always pass up good for great!  If you take those words to heart, what would you change?

What are you settling for that you want to surpass?  What help do you need to get there?  Let’s come up with a list of potential “pass up goods for greats”.  I think it will surprise you.


I've lived my life in service to others. I'm focused on mental health and how it impacts our relationships, culture, and society. Through creative expression and narrative I believe we can impact change.

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