Posted in after the diagnosis, coping with chronic illness, coping with life threatening illness, living with chronic illness, Living with Illness

Sitting in the Mud

As spring makes its way across the country the rains starts and mud becomes a familiar condition to face.  Ever try and drive through mud thinking you can make it through only to have the wheels begin spinning?  The harder you hit the gas the deeper you sink in the mud.  There are two things you can do; you can either sit there and wait for the mud around you to dry out (that could take days or weeks) or figure out how to develop traction under the wheel so you can get some grip and get out.

The diagnosis is the mud.  It’s easy to get mired in the mud physically, emotionally and spiritually after you hear the words from the doctor that will forever change your life.  I’ve witness way too many people who sit on the pity pot and wallow away in the mud.  Mud is slippery, dirty, and very heavy.  If you don’t have the tools to get out of the mud you can expend lots of energy but not get anywhere.  You become like a hamster on a wheel; going fast but getting nowhere.  What will it take for you to get some traction in facing the health challenge?

Good information will allow you to make good decisions, that gives you traction.  Having a support network not only to provide comfort but to serve as a sounding board for strategy building gives you traction.  Developing good relationships with your providers means you have better access at times when you need it the most, that gives you traction.  It’s not rocket science, but you have to make the choice to get out of the mud; no one is going to do it for you.  I guess you could call a tow truck to drag you out…who’s that person in your life.  The tow truck is the person who has continually saved you from yourself in a variety of situations.  Is that the message you want to send to your body that you need to be saved because you don’t have the desire or stamina?  I think you can do better!

The mud is a hindrance but you can learn how to gain traction if you get stuck.  The real goal is to learn to avoid the mud staying on dry land so you always have the traction you need to continue on our journey to health and healing!


I've lived my life in service to others. I'm focused on mental health and how it impacts our relationships, culture, and society. Through creative expression and narrative I believe we can impact change.

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