Posted in after the diagnosis, coping with chronic illness, coping with life threatening illness, Emotional Health

What’s In Your Wallet?

Capital One credit card asks the question, “What’s in your wallet?” hoping you’re carrying their credit card.  If you take the brand name out of the equation it asks “what type of reserve do you have when you want to make a purchase?”  We hear about the Federal Reserve, oil reserves, grain reserves, etc. and yet most of us don’t consider more personal types of reserves that would serve the body, mind, and spirit.

Tuesday I wrote about the man with the 9 pillows.  Unfortunately for him, the saga continued on Tuesday (my day off).  He called, angry and confrontational about his sofa and loveseat having 9 pillows.  He didn’t speak to people who had any knowledge about how the sofa comes from the factory so his fire was fueled by misinformation.  However, let’s take a step back and realize that this man’s life must suck; either that or he has more reserves in his personal emotional bank than all of us combined; I seriously doubt that in fact I believe his account is grossly overdrawn.

This man just lost 48 hours of his life over pillows.  My first question is, “Why is he so willing to throw away his time and energy on something that hasn’t even occurred yet?”  In addition, his anger and frustration was moot because the sofa  hadn’t been delivered yet, so was his imaginary sofa short pillows?  We all chuckle about this but this individual is literally and figuratively eating himself from the inside out. 

Let’s take it to the next step.  What do you think has been going on in his body for those two days?  How much cortisol has been released into his system as he fights an imaginary fight?  How much stomach acid was released as his body and mind churned over this ordeal?  The body can’t run on empty and unfortunately this man is probably riding on fumes.

There are a lot of things to get upset over, and if you are going to get upset over pillows at least wait till the sofa arrives before you start the battle.  We all have challenges, especially following the diagnosis of a chronic or other life-altering illness; but put your resources and reserves to those things that will make a difference in your life.  His health isn’t getting better because his sofa has 9 pillows.

What challenge would you like to release today giving your body, mind, and spirit the energy and reserves it needs for health and healing?  We all have those little things that get in the way of feeling better, what’s your?


I've lived my life in service to others. I'm focused on mental health and how it impacts our relationships, culture, and society. Through creative expression and narrative I believe we can impact change.

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