I was in the car yesterday listening to NPR and there was a segment with Mary Chapin Carpenter, the fabulous musician. The intro to the segment talked about the loss she had suffered in the past couple of years: a pulmonary embolism, a divorce, and the death of her father. She lived through enormous grief and took those experiences to the studio to create her new album.
I always keep a pad and pencil ready because inspiration and questions arise throughout the day. When Mary Chapin Carpenter began to sing and reached the chorus I was hooked. The song she was singing is titled, “Chasing What’s Already Gone”. Are you thinking what I’m thinking?
I started to think about all the thousands of stories I’ve listened to over the years about how individuals and families survive an illness. There are many, whether they realize it or not, who are chasing their life prior to their diagnosis. Even if your health returns, you are not the same person. Chasing the person you were is impossible. These new experiences on your journey to health and healing have changed you forever. It’s amazing how subtle the changes can be, but if you’re willing to be honest with yourself you’ll notice those internal shifts.
My concern is for those who are chasing what’s already gone; a life without illness. There are people who will face chronic conditions, but are striving to be the person they were before the diagnosis; how is that getting in the way of your inner peace and happiness? We’ve discussed creating a life with a new normal and that seems to reap the most rewards. “Chasing What’s Already Gone” potentially seems like a bigger drain of personal resources than the health challenge.
My question for you is how can you chase what’s possible instead of what’s already gone? How will you set yourself up for success instead of grief and strife? If you’re looking for some extra support, feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.