Posted in after the diagnosis, coping with chronic illness, coping with life threatening illness, living with chronic illness, overcoming adversity, Spirituality and Health

Do You Shy Away From the Hard Questions?

When we’re facing a chronic or life-threatening illness there are lots of questions. We want to know how, why, and what’s next. We ask about treatment options, prognosis, side effects from medications, and possibly alternative therapies. The questions we ask are very concrete. These questions address what we think are the tangible aspects of disease and healing.

I’ve been pondering these “tangible” questions and I’m starting to think they are the easy questions. Why you may ask. Well, the truth is they are the predictable questions. They are the questions that everyone asks and is expected to ask. We’ve been conditioned as patients to ask these predictable questions. There not bad questions, actually they are crucial questions; but once they are answered what questions are left to ask.

The truth is, “The quality of the answers is dependent on the quality of the questions.” So what are those questions? They are the soul driven questions. They are the questions that ask what are you going to do with this journey? Are you ready, willing, and able to go on this spiritually driven healing pilgrimage? We could go so far as to ask, “What’s the meaning of life?” (Without the cliché aspect).

If you read my recent post at, you’ll explore the idea of releasing your phenomenal nature, and that’s a big question. This type of question gets us to begin explore the depths of our past and present experiences. It drives us to focus on potential, a forward thinking catalyst. It’s that forward thinking catalyst that can lead to hope, or encourage the development of our faith.

We can debate forever the “why me” or “why not me” continuum. However, that can slide you into a life of an infinite loop, and that’s exhausting. The “why” question, in most cases, can never be answered definitively. On the other hand, the questions that focus on our internal connection to possibility can allow us to develop those quality questions with the knowing we’ll be ready with those quality answers.

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I've lived my life in service to others. I'm focused on mental health and how it impacts our relationships, culture, and society. Through creative expression and narrative I believe we can impact change.

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