Posted in after the diagnosis, coping with chronic illness, coping with life threatening illness, living with chronic illness, overcoming adversity

No One Likes Change

Let’s face it, we’re creatures of habit. We get into our rhythm of life and we play our own music to that rhythm. There’s a comfort level in the rhythms we create and they provide an emotional and spiritual safety net for what may seem like a life filled with challenge.

I can be quite stubborn and in the past didn’t like change at all. I could dig my heals in better than anyone else I knew to avoid change. I’m not proud of this story but I’ll share it with you.

I was working in a restaurant (within a hotel) in graduate school. I had been there a few years and the manager of the restaurant was someone who was brought in from another hotel. I revered this woman. She was competent. In fact, she was the yardstick that, in my eyes, would measure leaders. I learned a lot from her and we would stay late at night discussing marketing and training. Unfortunately, but not a surprise, she got a promotion and left our establishment

It took a few weeks until a new manager was hired. The new manager arrived and that sent me into a tailspin. It went so far that I didn’t speak to her the first three months she managed the restaurant. Then something happened, I can’t remember the details, and we began a friendship.

So why didn’t I speak to her? I can say with clarity that change led to sadness. The person I admired and befriended had left, leaving me behind. It’s not that I wanted to follow in her footsteps, I was following a different career path, but I found someone who understood me. I had found someone to talk to whose level of passion for what he or she did matched the level of passion for what I was pursuing.

Why am I telling you this story? I’m sharing this to emphasize that change leaves us needing to reorient ourselves to a new north star. It requires that we open ourselves to new possibilities. Change requires us to face fears that we can’t even articulate.

On the other hand, change gives us the opportunity to grow. It provides us with a catalyst for exploring what’s possible. Change can be the shove we need to move forward. It can challenge us to be our best selves. It will ask you to reach deep within yourself to voice what previously has not been spoken. Change is scary, trust me, I know, but if you give it a chance it can also be your closest ally on your journey to overcome adversity, in particular health and healing!

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I've lived my life in service to others. I'm focused on mental health and how it impacts our relationships, culture, and society. Through creative expression and narrative I believe we can impact change.

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